成长第一步:学会Say NO!坚决不做“Mr. OK”!

2016-09-10 学生讲堂

  你可曾有过

  明明约了朋友吃饭

  可老板说:“晚上留下来加班”

  虽然心里一万个不情愿

  却依旧微笑说:“好的,老板!”

  

成长第一步:学会Say NO!坚决不做“Mr. OK”!1

  你可曾有过

  明明自己手头不富裕

  可朋友说:“我现在急用钱,能不能借点儿”

  虽然自己都快要被裤腰带勒死了

  却依旧大方说:“行!没事儿,不用着急还!”

  

成长第一步:学会Say NO!坚决不做“Mr. OK”!2

  你可曾有过

  明明自己跟Ta不熟

  可Ta却说:“你帮我去买个饭呗!”

  虽然心里暗骂“我跟你很熟吗?!”

  却依旧点头答应:“好啊!你吃什么?”

  

成长第一步:学会Say NO!坚决不做“Mr. OK”!3

  其实很多时候,

  那个“NO”字就挂在嘴边,

  却始终没有勇气说出口,

  生怕一不小心得罪了别人。

  于是,

  你便成了“Mr or Miss OK”

  Never say “No”!

  不过没有关系

  下面十种方法

  让你不说“NO”也能委婉拒绝别人

  给出否定的回答时

  Use “Sorry” instead of “No”

  X:No, I have a very important date.

  √:I’m so sorry, I have an important date.

  表示自己办不到时

  Use “unable” instead of ”can’t”.

  X:I can’t finish it by tonight!

  √:I’m unable to finish it by tonight.

  表示“拒绝”时

  Use “turn down” instead of “refuse”

  X:I must refuse you.

  √:I’m afraid I need to turn down your request.

  当你不想让别人做某事时

  Say “It’s not very proper to do sth”

  instead of “You can’t do sth”

  X:You can’t ask me for help all the time.

  √:It’s not very proper to ask me for help all the time.

  打断别人时

  Use “hold on a second”

  instead of “stop”

  X:Stop! Your idea is too bad!

  √:Hold on a second, I think there’s a small problem with your idea.

  向别人提出其他条件时

  Use “could” instead of “can”

  X:Can you give me one more day to do this?

  √:Could you give me one more day to do this,please?

  表示自己将不会去做某事时

  Use “might not” instead of “won’t”

  X:I won’t have dinner with you tonight.

  √:I might not have time to have dinner with you tonight.

  在表明自己要做某事时

  Use “need” instead of “must”

  X:I must go now.

  √:I’m afraid I need to go now.

  表示你不想做某事时

  Say “I‘d rather not do sth”

  instead of “I don't want to do sth”

  X:I don’t want to do it.

  √:I would rather not do it.

  表示不赞同时

  Say “Yes, but...”

  instead of “I don't think so”

  X:I don’t think we match each other.

  √:Yes, but I’m afraid we might not match each other.

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